Recently, one of my coaching clients told me that he just can’t understand why one of his employees won’t take the initiative to follow through on tasks. You could fill in the blank with “Why won’t my [employees/kids/spouse, etc.] take initiative?” and the answer will still be the same. There are a few things to consider if you are experiencing this situation at work or at home.
We can make assumptions about others’ behavior, but we will never know what’s really going on with them unless we ask in a non-threatening way that doesn’t make them feel defensive. Often times, we have contributed to their behavior by our responses to their actions. Before getting frustrated by others’ lack of initiative, take a look at how you are responding/treating them by using the questions above. We can’t control others’ behavior, but we can certainly control our own behavior and how we treat others, which impact and influence the responses we will get from them.
“When you are offended at any man’s fault, turn to yourself and study your own failings. Then you will forget your anger.” – Epictetus
“Men are disturbed not by things, but by the view which they take of them.” – Epictetus
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