Recently, someone very close to me called to get my opinion on a very hurtful email she received from a friend that she had been working for which basically said that she was fired. The email made several untrue accusations and was very mean-spirited. When asked how to respond to this email, I shared the following questions that I ask myself before giving a knee-jerk response:
Given all of this, the most important thing to consider in choosing an appropriate response is how you will feel about yourself after you respond – not what the other person will do as a result of your response. Focusing on the other person is a mistake. It’s much more important to focus on ourselves. I am the only person that I have control over, and I have to be able to look myself in the mirror and live with myself. I choose to be a person that I am proud to be.
“This above all; to thine own self be true.” – William Shakespeare
“If evil be spoken of you and it be true, correct yourself, if it be a lie, laugh at it.” – Epictetus
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